A wedding in my family is no less than a major (family) milestone. We celebrate it like Diwali.
Every prayer, ritual, offering, event, invitation etc. happens with the mahurat, nek and shagun. You may call this superstition or tradition. But that is a completely different topic which I might touch sometime later this year.
We all want smooth and happy proceedings so any token amount or gift required to be given as shagun or nek to a person is considered legitimate. It us out of respect and love for that person. This is no way dowry-related.
List of nek and shagun is endless but I am mentioning some interesting ones for you amazing readers.
Joote ka nek – This is every sister’s dream. Remember that song ‘paise do joote lo‘ from the famous Hum Apke Hain Kaun movie. The bride’s sisters hide the groom’s shoes and in favour to return the shoes, they ask for nek which groom needs to pay (mostly cash is preferred as a lot of sisters need to divide the nek).
Kajal ka nek – When an auspicious event like wedding starts the aunts of the bride usually do the ritual of putting kajal to ward off evil. So as gratitude, a nek is given to the loving aunts.
Mehndi ka nek – I did not share it in the previous post as I intended to share it here. The mehndi artists who put my bridal mehndi ask for a nek. The tradition of putting mehndi is so special and sacred that there is no payment its always a nek.
Kalash ka nek – The aunts and friends of the house very painstakingly carry the Kalash from potter’s house to the bride’s place. Finally, to get it inside the house my uncles and my dad had to give nek to all those who carried the Kalash.
Vinayak ka nek – Brothers who sit with the bride for starting the festivities with Ganesh pooja get a special nek. This is usually for little kids of the house. It us to involve them in the festivities and hero them interested and occupied.
Baarat ka nek – When the baarat arrives near the bride’s house the sisters usually run to inform the elders whoever does it first will get the nek from brides father. It’s fun to watch the race.
Pagfere ka nek – After phere bride goes to grooms place with her sisters and brothers who will bring her back home for one last time before she sets on for the journey to grooms house. All the sisters and brothers get a nek for accompanying the newly weds.
Ghodi ka nek – When the groom climbs on the ghodi or horse to go to the bride’s house for the wedding then the groom’s sisters-in-law holds the bridle of the horse. She would only leave it and let the groom go after getting her nek.
Dwaar rokne ka nek – When the newly weds arrive at grooms house the sister’s of the groom holds the entry door and would only allow after they get their nek. A nek of her choice obviously. It is a comedy to watch when you have elder sisters like in our case. Lovingly they also got gifts for us.
Muh dikhayi ka nek – When the grooms family meets the new daughter-in-law it is customary to give her nek. All elders show love and bless the newly-weds
I had a great time seeing all these customs. It’s a fun-filled, affair full of love and respect for one another.
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